Apr 28
Who is the right person to date?
There you have a list with several points to consider.
1. People don't change much. What you see is what you get.
If you fall in love with someone who talks a lot, she will talk more later.
The “I'll change her” later doesn't work.
You may like your partner to change, but you can't do anything to make her change. One can change only when one decides to change. But first, you have to tell her with affection what you expect.
2. Keep yourself open to dialogue.
You must be able to ask: “What about me that you don't like? How could I improve?”
If you have a boyfriend who asks you this, don't leave him; he's good.
But you don't have to throw him the cavalry. You also have defects.
3. You must not want to manipulate and change people.
You marry a person with his virtues and his defects. We all have virtues and defects. If you see and think that your boyfriend has no flaws, leave him, or try to discover his flaws, until you know him well.
4. About laziness.
Some don't make an effort for anything. If, when asked to do something, the answer is, “I can't,” or “I'm already trying, but I can't,” he is a bad candidate for courtship and marriage.
5. About drinking.
Likewise, a point to consider.
6. About pornography.
There are a lot of people hooked on porn. There is no ‘lite’ pornography; addicted people imagine that sex is what they see in pornography; this has affective and physiological consequences and leads the person to self-centeredness.
7. About gluttony.
An honorable person should know how to handle things well.
8. Courtship should make you a better person.
Falling in love should get the best out of yourself; to become the best friend, best student, best son, and best brother. If courtship separates you from others or makes you more unlikable, that infatuation is not good.
9. Listen to your parents.
They have good intentions, even if there are parents who objectively never find a good enough boyfriend, a good enough girlfriend for their child.
10. Listen to your friends.
If you have a friend who is doing badly, you have to tell him so. Yet the decision will be made by him. Because falling in love blinds us, and hormones make us see things differently. It's great to have someone warn you. Even if, at first, out of pride, you don't want to recognize it.
A courtship should not separate you from anyone. A good courtship should give you peace and bring you closer to all. It should make you a radiant person.
11. A good courtship should be based on respect for each other and delicacy in treatment.
Disrespect cannot be tolerated. A suitor who is physically violent with his girlfriend is not a good future partner.
12. Courtship should bring you closer to God.
If it separates you from God, you must be strong and decide.
And if you are not a believer, still, courtship should make you a better person. These are alerts that must be taken into account.