Oct 7 Tue
Do I have Psychological Insecurity?
Psychological Insecurity is often an invisible obstacle that limits our success in family and business interactions, and may even offend God.
I believe that for those of us who belong to Generation X, with parents from the so-called Baby Boomer generation and children from Generations Y or Z, it presents an interesting challenge that we must face in all areas of interaction.
In that sense, I believe that the gray hair and some wrinkles that we usually already have should give us the wisdom to know ourselves well; otherwise, we will fall and make our loved ones (children and other family members) fall, as well as our teammates, into psychological insecurity.
Therefore, I’m going to share some defective behaviors that we’ve all probably had, starting with myself, and which I suggest we continue working on improving to grow in our endeavor to become better people, better Christians, and children of God:
- Hiding our weak points, whether as a parent, spouse, owner, manager, leader, or collaborator in a company.
- Never acknowledging that we do not know all the answers to the questions or concerns that may arise in any area of our lives.
- Not managing our non spoken language and gestures can make other people feel uncomfortable or disregarded. Even a harsh look can be more damaging than a word.
- Unconsciously “labeling” others, depriving them of the chance to contribute to an issue or challenging the status quo, and worse, making them feel like they don’t contribute value and thus inducing their silence.
- “Labeling” ourselves as first-class, or even being negative toward any idea or opinion contrary to our own.
- Not delegating tasks, whether at home or at work, with the mistaken argument that no one else will do them the way we do. That’s obvious: people are unique and unrepeatable in every sense of the word.
- Fear of losing prominence at work, and therefore not sharing information that will benefit the team as a whole.
- Not knowing how to listen and always believing that we are being attacked and judged, then interrupting and defending ourselves.
In this regard, I share with you some phrases that can help us reflect and face our fears:
- “Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill – British statesman.
- “I fear no storm, for I am learning to sail my ship.” Louisa May Alcott.
- “Creativity requires courage.” Henri Matisse – French painter.
There’s no doubt about it, we’re all imperfect, yet we all have talents. For that reason, I invite you to begin working on self-knowledge, or if you’re already doing so, to continue to delve deeper into it and enjoy the process. Prayer, conversation with God, will help you to know yourself the way God sees you.
What do you say? Do you dare to swim against the current? And thus, contribute to better families, businesses, organizations, and society as a whole.
Excerpted from Hugo Saldaña Estrada