Dec 13 Fri
Nine tips for success before, during, and after marriage:
Tips to achieve success in married life; many of which you don't hear often:
Thinking about marriage:
1º The relationship with the family
When choosing a future spouse, the quality of the relationship with his or her family is important: If it is good, it will be a positive sign for the future married life.
2º Differences, just enough
It is preferable not to have excessive differences in age, political ideas, religious ideals, and lifestyles.
Approaching the wedding:
3º Even if there is a child before, it is not obligatory to marry!
A child may be expected before marriage. One should never get married because of the pregnancy, since getting married under pressure could compromise its validity.
4º Better to get to know each other before getting married... Are you sure?
Doing so is not a good decision, as many marriages that start living together before marriage also fail.
First years and the arrival of children:
5º The relationship with the in-laws: It should be good and close, but not too close.
It always causes immense pain to a married person to learn that a spouse harbors enmity or resentment toward his or her family of origin. However, one should adopt a reasonable and adequate distance from the parents.
6º Long live large families... and Christian families...
It is important to try to have a large family because even in a world that does not favor the family, experience shows that families with more children tend to have more chances of success.
The beauty of daily life:
7º Silence, cause of rupture
It is important to talk every day sincerely and openly, but also discreetly, about what is or is not going well in the family.
8º Be careful with the cell phone...
Cell phones and technologies often generate a real addiction, they are dangerous for the good of the family.
9º Prayer... and home theology.
We should not neglect the life of prayer, a wall that protects us from the evil one, because if we want to bear fruit in this life, we must remain united to the Lord, as the branches only bear fruit when they are united to the vine.
And what about the Theology of the home? A Christian family should never lack sacred images such as crucifixes, representations or statues of the Virgin, also the book of Sacred Scripture (the Bible), and some books of spiritual reading. They will help us to live in the presence of God, are useful as a reminder to pray, and protect us from anything that could be a danger to our salvation,
Excerpts from Jose Maria Carrera
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